Change is the rule of nature.

 

Stephen Chbosky said it perfectly in his book  "The Perks of Being a Wallflower" :

"Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody; it will not stop for you either."

People move on; they change; they let go; they grow; and eventually, they forget and just move on. No one is going to be with you forever because life does not stop for anybody.

A passage from the Bhagwat Geeta by Lord Krishna says:

                   परिवर्तन संसार का नियम है |

which signifies "Change is the rule of nature".

In simple terms, change can be defined as an effect that is strong enough to alter or change someone's life or way of living.

We frequently become overly attached to someone to the point that we are eventually overly influenced by either their presence or absence. As humans, we require comfort constantly, whether from a person or a place. We become dependent and prone to developing habits when certain people are consistently present in our lives. We gradually lose sight of the fact that no one simply remains forever. Your mental health declines when they actually leave. The issue may not be with us specifically; it may be with the kind of upbringing we receive. We are constantly advised to make good friends and to make an effort to make friends with others, which is not wrong, but we are never advised to not be attached or to refrain from having certain expectations. Most importantly, we are never told that it's okay if you lose your friends or other people; instead, just be content and self-reliant with yourself. When a child matures and begins his academic career. They are enrolled in a play school, where they will see other kids who are undoubtedly more like them and where they will learn to value things like unity, togetherness, and empathy. progressive admission to pre-primary sections where a child is advised to make friends, friendships break down, and the cycle continues. A child continuously adjusts on his own and is not significantly affected because there are no expectations connected, and parents are typically their best friends because they are interested in their child's day-to-day activities, friends, and schoolwork, among other things. But what happens when they grow up? Parents are becoming less concerned with learning about their child's mental health. When we are young, we anticipate that nothing will change. We take it for granted that our friends will always be by our side and that our lives will go on as usual.

There is undoubtedly a time in everyone's life when they tend to lose a lot of friends. Teenagers grow increasingly focused on their education during their high school and intermediate years for a variety of reasons, including parental pressure and personal interest. However, when they finish school, they feel an unexpected sense of liberation. Gradually, they move on to colleges that are farther away, so they are no longer picked up by their parents or dropped off at school.

Hearts that yearn for an adventurous existence and eyes that are full of fantasies. Everyone is striving to be their best selves. Nevertheless, do you know? What is another negative aspect of colleges besides mandatory attendance? A "large group of friends" and forming a WhatsApp group called "Friends Forever" and made a commitment to one another not to end their friendships. Seems absurd, huh? For the simple reason that it is. Anyway, gradually, there are three different kinds of students: those who worked extremely hard to pass the intermediate level or to ace the engineering and medical entrance exams; those who are utterly unsure of what they want to do with their lives; and those who are simply going with the flow. As a result, all three types eventually feel the need to explore while in college.

A large bunch of pals hanging out, skipping classes, eating the worst food possible at canteens, chatting, and just generally roving the area. People feel like "forever" and that everything is a "dream come true "thing. Because of the newfound enjoyment, college does not feel as busy.

The twist comes afterward, though. Yes, like every Indian drama, it brings the whole thing down. The gathering starts getting smaller as time goes on. Pairs of people paired off. Some people were left unattended. People began displaying their actual selves. All that crazy enjoyment eventually sounds stressful since the degree is getting closer and there is pressure to find work and establish stability.

When people get overly attached or connected, both their physical and emotional health is negatively impacted. Change is inevitable, and this is not always bad. When things change, this gives you an opportunity for personal growth. Losing friends can be difficult, but it is part of the changes that we all must go through in our lives. When this happens or you experience changes in other ways, life continues just like always.

The sentence aforesaid:

"Things change, and friends leave" implies that life is a journey, and despite who joins or leaves along the way, you must continue your journey on your own. It also places importance on the fact that, despite how important your co-travelers are, on this journey called life, you must not sojourn — you must not stop for them to travel along with you. It is sad to know that when someone close to you leaves or departs from this world, a part of you dies with them. Yet, you must explore the same emotion from countless different sources around you.

Likewise, no one of us found it easy when my father passed away, but my family and I did. There was an unfathomable emptiness and the emotion of loneliness. The fear of everything was distraught by the knowledge that we had lost our primary source of income.

The vacuum left by their disappearance won't be filled but the emotions will certainly calm you down to the extent that you can channel yourself toward something that’s equally soothing or important. Life is indeed not fair. Although this is a distressing fact, focus on what you can manage and how to overcome it rather than expending energy on every barrier in your path.

COVID-19, we learned a lot from a fatal epidemic. The one thing would be :

 Impermanence is the only permanent thing in life.

So, many people worldwide have experienced the loss of a loved one. but ultimately have to survive. live for some of their potential rewards. Similarly, my mother's sister, who also lost her husband, said, "I wish I could die too, but I can't just leave my little ones alone in this cruel world, where they have no one to take care of them except me," while sobbing uncontrollably.

Change is a natural part of life, and nothing can stop it. We are just passengers along for the ride, and no emergency stop button will magically put life on hold until you are ready to hit play again. Most of our disappointment comes from unmet expectations.

Sometimes you need to let people lose you. Not everything that seems exciting and cool remains the same.

 Trying to stop change or slow life down will not work; we must all go along with the process regardless of how we feel about it. When you lose friends or things change in a way you do not want, the only thing you can do is try to stay positive and make the best of a bad situation.